Friday, 20 July 2012


The Femdom Community in SL group now brings you a Hunt over 6 of their Sims in celebration of International Femdom Day
The Hunt will starts Saturday 21st July and runs thru to the 28th July.
The 6 Sims involved have hidden 5 boots waiting for you to find.

Get your hud from the Hud Giver, at any one of the participating sims, you must be wearing it when you find and CLICK each boot for it to register you for the grand prizes.
When you find all five boots in each of the 6 Femdoms you are automatically entered to win grand prizes at the end of the day 28 July!
Up to SIX chances to win grand prizes - one per participating Femdom.

Monday, 2 July 2012

The date July 24th was chosen as the date for International Femdom Day
as a day for celebrating dominant women – seven days a week and 24 hours
a day.
There are real life celebrations going on in various parts of the world.

The Femdom Community in SL group is bringing you a Hunt over all their
Sims in celebration for those who do not have the opportunity for a RL venue.

The Hunt will start on 21st July and run thru to the 28th July.
Seven of the Sims in the Femdom Community group will have hidden
for you 5 boots waiting for you to find. (The Hud you will wear while
hunting will record the boots you have found and all the Hunters that have found
ALL the hunt boots from the sims will go into a draw at the end of the Hunt.)

So not only do you get the prizes inside the boots but each Sim will have
It’s own Major winner who will receive L$1,OOO.

More information coming closer to the date so do make sure you schedule
time for a good Hunting over 21st – 28th July.


Domaine la Fignonne
Future Femdom
The Mistresses
The Shrine
The Velvet Thorn
The Velvet Crossing

The Femdom Community in SL group (formerly The Femdom Network)
is a coalition of Femdom owners who strive to bring the very best of
SL Femdom to everyone. We work together to strengthen the community
and encourage people to explore the fascinating world of virtual femdom and

Saturday, 9 June 2012


By StarSong Bright – Owner of the Velvet Thorn Femdom in SL

The taboos we learn through our childhood and adolescence can be very inhibiting.  Many people carry a great deal of shame and fear mixed up in their kinks and fetishes.  Second Life allows us to shine a bright light into those dark places.  The level of anonymity, safety and our virtual representations/avatars give us a way to explore the parts of ourselves that we might simply never try in real life.

Do not be afraid to have a good long look at what turns you on.  Try to set that “internal judgment voice” off and allow yourself to examine the things that make you weak in the knees.  Avoid labels and stereotypes where possible.  The labels are necessary to discuss things, but it is important to separate the labels from ourselves and not fall into believing that we must be this way or that because of X label.  We are individuals, with kinks.  Everyone has kinks, not everyone can face them or wants to, and that is their choice of course.

Oftentimes, to make peace with our dirty little kink secrets, we need to take them from that dark place we hide them and hold them up, turn them over in our hands and figure out where they originated and what we get from them.  Fetishes are often created out of things that happen to us as children and can have had profound effects on us growing up.  Some of the most common are things like boys being fascinated and perhaps wanting to dress up with women’s lingerie or makeup.  In western society the taboo against this can make those items exciting and forbidden.  That said, these are incredibly common among westernized men to fetishize these items, and these fetishes do NOT automatically indicate some of the more hurtful labels such as homosexual or transsexual.

There is no one way a fetish is created; they are as individual as the people who carry them.  For some boys they may have fond memories of being young enough to walk around in their Mommies’ high heels and make her laugh and nobody saying anything about it.  Or perhaps they have fond memories of a sister or cousin playing dress up with them.  Or perhaps they got a thrill out of imagining what it was like to be female.  Perhaps just enjoyed the adrenalin rush of getting away with trying on some female garment when nobody was home or might come back at any moment.  The reasons for any given fetish can be many and varied.

The first year I was in SL I would make the men I met tell me a fantasy, something that turned them on.  I found the variety fascinating and developed a quite a few theories about fetishes and kinks.  Of course, everything in this document SHOULD be taken as “one woman’s opinion,” because your mileage may vary!

I once had a gentleman in SL tell me about his fetish for enemas.  I remember wrinkling my nose at the idea but I asked him about it anyways, curious how one develops such a fetish.  Well it turns out when he was nine or ten he was having problems and his mom and his busty aunt held him down and gave him an enema to deal with it.  Somewhere along the way, the powerlessness of that situation, the powerful caring female figures holding him down and doing something for his own good solidified into what grew into a full-blown fetish.

As we discussed it, he considered some of his other fetishes, many stemming from the same emotional place, wanting to be controlled by a strong woman who would take care of him and force him into a submissive position.  As we turned the scenario and looked at what had created it, he was able to see other avenues to the feeling he was seeking and how many of his fetishes came back to the same place.  He was able to let go of a bit of the baggage of “that is such an odd thing to want!” that he had been weighing himself down with.

From some of the stories and anecdotes I have heard over the years I have a few personal theories.  Spankings are one of the more common fetishes in both sexes.  For many a spanking harkens back to when life was simple and we were small and whatever infraction we had committed could be wiped away by a caring parent or caretaker giving us a good butt reddening and a trip to timeout land in our bedroom.   Whether it comes from that, or simply the chemicals released in our brains as we are struck, it is a very common fetish – this desire to be spanked.

It appears that a heavy conscience can often send people on the hunt for someone to absolve them with a good spanking or other such pain-making practice.   But then, as Freud said “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar,” and a person can simply enjoy feeling the burn.  There is no one size fits all explanation for any of this, only the individual can see the origins and the needs being met by any particular kink.

SL gives you a place to work through what makes you tick, and find ways to scratch those little itches.  You will find most kinks in the world represented somewhere in SL.  Do not be afraid to stare your kinks straight in the face and get to know them, they are a part of you, and nothing to be ashamed of in the end.  The better you understand them, the easier they are to live with, and some are just downright fun! Live a little!

Tuesday, 8 May 2012

The Sombrero dance on Sunday was another success with DJ Boy Decuir extending the dance by another hour. Thanks to everyone that came to the 3 day Femdom Fiesta and I trust you were able make some new friends and catch up with some old ones as I did. Some of those costumes were amazing and certainly added to the festive spirit. The Sim owners of FCnSL sincerely thank you for your support and hope to bring you another event further in the year.

Saturday, 5 May 2012

Sixty odd people on the dance floor at the Cinco DeMayo Dance. Dj Boldo played some amazing songs well suited to the Cinco DeMayo theme.
If you love to dance don’t miss the Sunday Sombrero Dance at noon with Dj Boy Decuir. Get your free Sombrero from down in the Fair area and enjoy a few hours of dancing. Check the Event Schedule further down this blog and find the events still to come yet for this great Femdom Fiesta Weekend.

Friday, 4 May 2012

Femdom Fiesta Begins!

What an amazing start we had to the Femdom Fiesta. The Meet and Greet turned into musical chairs with chairs rotating and adding constantly.

At 11:00am we began with the very well attended meet and greet.  There were lots of new faces and some random chair craziness got us all moving and shaking!

LA VITA LOCA Dance with Dj Mars.  Then DJ Squishy took over, followed by DJ Exxx.   Great dance, great music. If the rest of the events goes this well its going to be a great weekend Fiesta. .

Tuesday, 1 May 2012

Femdom Fiesta Schedule of Events

Three days of events brought to you by the Femdom Community in SL for your enjoyment.


***Check out the "Looking for a Mistress" Boards and Photo Voting Boards 
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FRIDAY 4th May
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Join us in the Discussion area  for an opportunity to meet sim owners, dominants and submissives from other Femdom Sims you may not have met before or even catch up with old friends.

Put on your Mexican Fiesta costumes and join Dj Mars for the first dance in our Fiesta Weekend.

DJ Ex-x-xquisite continues the festive mood. Host Callie Madrigal

Always something to do in this area from Bumper cars, Break Out to Ferris Wheel. Just watch where you toss those darts!

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Hosted by StarSong Bright.
Second Life affords us an opportunity to explore ourselves and others in ways that we simply would never get the chance to do in real life.   In this discussion we will cover many areas of exploring and how to avoid inhibiting stereotypes and labels.

Hosted by Madame Lizbeth and Lady Loes.
(A segment from the TMS Fetish School based on the Kinky ABC’s Song)
The lesson today is:  "C is for your cock which I squash beneath my shoe, while I watch you wiggle and laugh at you." All you need to know about cocks!

Dj Boldo Runo is going to help us celebrate Cinco de Mayo. 
Have a few Margaritas, put on that festive costume and get ready to salsa and dance to the great set by Boldo.

Join Frifta Orellana &  Ingwaz Inglis in the Discussion area as they share some hot erotic stories with you.

Hosted by Ms. Honey Anastasia.
Why in the D/s or Bdsm lifestyle is it acceptable for Dominants to have more then one submissive, but its generally not ok for submissives to have more then one Dominant...why is it ok one way, but not the other?

Always something to do in this area from Bumper cars, Break Out to Ferris Wheel. Just watch where you  toss those darts!

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SUNDAY  6th May
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Hosted by Mistresses Chantall and Imogene

Boy Decuir will be our Dj for this Party. Get your free Sombrero from down in the Fair area and come dance up a storm. 

Ginette Pinazzo brings you once again the very popular Drum Circle.
A great way to beat that stress away while having fun too.

Hosted by Angeni Loorden
 When does it stop being a D/s relationship and start becoming more of a love affair, and how does this affect the dynamic of the D/s relationship as a whole.  Can you have strictly a D/s relationship with an individual, or is something deeper and more fundamental required.

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We have opportunities for SL businesses to sponsor the event through Ad Boards.

We also have a SUBMISSIVE SEEKING MISTRESS area with boards that subs can rent to get their picture and notecard under the eyes of Mistresses from all our member femdom sims.

Down in the Fair area Mistress Chantall has a Femdom photo contest going, enter ASAP, voting begins Saturday (it is possible to enter after voting starts, but don't wait!!!).

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Tuesday, 24 April 2012

ARE YOU UNOWNED? LOOKING FOR A MISTRESS? Would you like the opportunity to have Mistresses from at least 8 different Sims view your profile? Go to any of the 8 Sims in the FCnSl and find the “Mistress Wanted Board” get the notecard with full details - Yes this could be your lucky break!!

Thursday, 29 March 2012

Femdom Fiesta

Stay tuned for details of our upcoming Femdom Fiesta events from Friday the 4th of May through Sunday the 6th of May.  We will be celebrating Femdom and Cinco de Mayo!

We are seeking volunteers to help with events, as well as sponsors.  Please contact StarSong Bright in world if you would like to get involved!